Pema Chodron on Developing Self-Discipline

“Many of our escapes are involuntary: addiction and dissociating from painful feelings are two examples. Anyone who has worked with a strong addiction – compulsive eating, compulsive sex, abuse of substances, explosive anger, or any other behavior that’s out of control – knows that when the urge comes on it’s irresistible. The seduction is too strong. So we train again and again in less highly charged situations in which the urge is present but not so overwhelming. By training with everyday irritations, we develop the knack of refraining when the going gets rough. It takes patience and an understanding of how we’re hurting ourselves not to continue taking the same old escape route of speaking or acting out.”

From Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change, by Pema Chodron

WP-Prosperity Version 2.5 – One-Click Theme Updates + New Author Widget

I recently published a minor update to WP-Prosperity, which makes this version 2.5. Included in this update are a few minor bug fixes, as well as a some added functionality. Here’s a list of key changes in this release:

1. One-Click Theme Updates – this will be the last time you’ll have to manually update WP-Prosperity. From now on, you’ll be able to update the theme to the latest version via your WordPress dashboard, just like you can with most plugins and other themes.

2. WP-Prosperity Author Widget – this is the same widget that you see at the top of the sidebar of this site. Also, see it in action on the WP-Prosperity demo site here.

5 Ways to Get Back On-Track Toward Achieving Your Goals

“Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan Press On! has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.” – Calvin Coolidge

So you got off-track with your goal. It happens. Behavior change takes time and persistence. Research on people who quit smoking, for example, shows that it takes several attempts before they finally quit for good. Beating yourself up over a short-term setback will only keep you stuck. Instead, forgive yourself, and use these five tips to start fresh today.

7 Inspiring Quotes for a Happier, Healthier, More Prosperous Life

If you want to live a happier, healthier, more prosperous life in the coming year, these inspiring nuggets of wisdom are sure to help.

mneill“Financial security doesn’t come from the amount of money you currently have; it comes from your ability to get more of it whenever you want … Master the art of serving others and you will secure your financial future.”

Michael Neill

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Marianne Williamson

What’s the Most Important Skill for Living a Happier, Healthier, More Prosperous Life?

“One who conquers himself is greater than another who conquers a thousand times a thousand on the battlefield.”
– Buddha –

What’s most important skill for living a happier, healthier, more prosperous life?

Self-Mastery. Psychologists call it self-regulation or self-control, and it’s the ability to get yourself to consistently behave in ways that move you toward your goals rather than away from them.

  • It’s the ability to set a course of action and keep moving forward no matter how hard it gets or how unmotivated you feel.
  • It’s the ability to recognize and overcome your negative habits, so you can intentionally create the amazing life you’ve imagined.
  • It’s the ability to say no in the face of increasing temptation from slick marketers and global companies who care more about their bottom line than your long-term health and financial security.
  • It’s the ability take sustained action toward your goals in the face of self-doubt and the endless array of distractions imposed by more and more technology.

I may be overstating this, but I believe it to be true. More than any other time in history, self-mastery is the essential skill that can rescue humanity from its path of over-indulgence, under-regulation and potential self-destruction.

Viktor Frankl on the Meaning of Life

“It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life – daily and hourly. Our answer must consist, not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual.”

Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

Are DUMB Goals Better Than SMART Goals?

If you’ve ever read anything related to achievement, motivation or personal development, you’ve no doubt come across the idea of Goal Setting. More often than not, the conversation revolves around setting SMART goals. This is an acronym for goals that are:

  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Attainable
  • Relevant
  • Time-Bound

Have you ever heard of DUMB goals? I hadn’t until I watched this video from Brendon Burchard, a public speaker and best-selling author of the recently released book, The Motivation Manifesto.  

In this video, Brendon says that our focus on SMART goals limits us to setting “realistic” goals that fail to inspire the human spirit. Instead, he suggests, we should set our sights much higher and focus on “moonshot” goals. Think changing the world. Think putting a man on the moon. Think serving millions of people.

Think DUMB Goals. According to Brendon, these are goals that are:

  • Dream-Driven
  • Uplifitng
  • Method-Friendly
  • Behavior-Driven

I have mixed feelings on this. There’s no doubt that Brendon is an amazing public speaker. As I watched the video, I could feel the energy surging through my body. That alone was well worth the 12 minutes it took to watch the video.

Still, his suggestion to establish unrealistic, “moonshot” goals doesn’t sit right with me. I agree that we need to set goals that inspire us to take consistent, daily action and persevere through the inevitable challenges and setbacks. But my experience and research tells me setting goals that are too far out of reach is – for most people – a recipe for failure.

But that’s just me. What’s your take on it?